A modern day self portrait: The Selfie.

A modern day self portrait: The Selfie.

Is it me or the word Selfie sounds a lot like Selfish, anyway social media has brought so many great things to us, the Selfie is one of them, in fact the Selfie can claim the number 1 spot for the the most widely used 'thing" on social media.  The Selfie is such a great invention that cell phone companies are considering it when creating new phones. Some say taking a Selfie is narcissistic, there are some valid points to this argument, such as; it is a lonely act for people who live on-line. I tend to disagree with some parts though.

Have you ever asked a friend at a party to take a picture of you and received a blurry, disgusting, milky thing that doesn't even show your good side (Picture) or better yet have someone take pictures of you looking your best and never share them with you. I think  the Selfie is a stand against haters, people who will never praise your make-up, beautiful eyes, hair-style etc. It is men and women taking charge of how they want to be portrayed on-line, the Selfie allows you the opportunity to put out your best picture. Gone are the day of ugly pictures of people looking weird and stoned, with the help of the Selfie today looking good is a choice, at least on-line. The Selfie is a modern day self portrait. B.S. Mabuza #GetCheesy

Note: The word Selfie has been used 10 times in this article, the number of times it takes to take the perfect on-line picture.

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We all have the ability to change our lives for the better, never give up. Kasi to kasi we all have the potential to change our family history. With a little more effort and a vision to see beyond our situation, we can achieve more. Reject negativity by any means necessary, refuse to be useless, remove limitations, hate mediocre, keep the faith and stay strong. You are not a victim of your circumstance, you are a game-changer, an innovator, it begins with you and continues beyond you. You are the answer, the chosen one. So dream big, beautiful dreams for your life. BS. Mabuza #GetCheesy

I don't love you anymore. I think?

I don't love you anymore. I think?

I don't love you anymore. I think?

 what twisted, it is more transactional than spiritual, we love the way we transact, tit for tat.

We seem to say: "I love you because you are perfect and if you make a mistake, I don't love you anymore", so like all adventurous in search of the perfect stone, I cannot tolerate anything less, least of all anything human with human mistakes that date back to Adam and Eve".

However I beg to differ with this concept of transactional love, I believe there is spiritual love, a kind of love that is untainted by the morden concept of what a man or woman should be and do to qualify as perfect, the kind that is everlasting, the kind that is self sacrifising versus selfish the kind that says I will never leave you no matter what, the kind that seems to say you're stuck with me for life or else you die (lol). That crazy kinda love. Who still says I'm crazy about you and actually means it.

5 points to consider:
1. Your friends are the problem.
2. Your Parents too are the problem.
3. The type of TV shows you watch, I'm serious. Generations is bad for you.
4. Your job, yes your job is the problem, especially if you have an ass for a Boss.
5. The fact that you are considering my advice, you are the biggest problem, who else shapes your ideas about love. Think about that, before you make that decision.

Yours
B.S. Mabuza #GetCheesy

Impress to depress.

Impress to depress.

God, only You are perfect. I am so glad that even when people and circumstances fail, You never do. Instead of putting my hope in things that will disappoint, I choose a life of peace that only comes from putting my hope in You.-Joyce Meyer

I recently came across an article by Joyce Meyer, in the article she shares on how we are not perfect and expecting those around us to be perfect is silly, she goes on to say that only God is perfect.  This got me thinking about the year ahead that if I stop trying to be perfect and realize that only God is perfect, I may actually stop disappointing my self about what others do or don't do, about who's right, who is wrong and most importantly I would stop trying to impress people as this is the cause of all my depression.

Now this is not going to be easy especially for a guy like me, my whole life and career is based on impressing people, when they think I'm great then my work is done, equally it has been the reason for my greatest pain and sorrow, so what do I do. I find myself in a dilemma that contradicts my greatest wish, which is to acknowledge God as the only perfect thing in this world.

5 things I'm considering doing this year that may help?

1. Go bungee jumping. (This can help take the fear away, if I don't die doing it.)

2. Let go of my past. (I feel this area of my life is the reason I have the dilemma to begin with, especially the impressing part).

3. Tell the truth. (Especially when it hurts)

4. Find a hobby. Like sport. (I think this will help me understand that it's ok to loose sometimes).

5. Trust God. (You either worry or trust God, you can't do both).

Bonus point: If you think I've changed this year, I might not care what you think, so please be careful. #GetCheesy

B.S. Mabuza.

We are slaves and this must stop.

We are slaves and this must stop.

We do not need more sales assistance, call center agents, administrators, waiters, no more security guards, cleaners (I am yet to see a white cleaner), even entertainers let some other race entertain us for a change.  We need more game changers, more thinkers, mathematicians, scientists, inventors, entrepreneurs. More leaders less politicians, "enough is enough". Before you say, you are proud of your profession, ask yourself what difference does it make in the world. #GetCheesy

7 deadly Questions and Answers.

1.  We live in fear, with that said, what are the consequences of this fear that rules our lives?  The answer is simple we make decisions driven by this fear.

2.  Then what? We convince ourselves we have made the right decisions for us and our children.

3.  Then what? Then we convince others that this is the only way.

4.  So what? So we remain slaves.

5.  What can we do? Change

6.  What? Every single thing about us, especially the way we think.

7.  How? Each one Teach one, that the destiny of the Black man is in his hands not the government or any institution or company that poses as our friend.

B.S. Mabuza.